Successful marriages are a product of a mix of various components. Two of the most important ones are happiness and fulfillment. If these are not present, this, together with other factors, can eventually cause marriage disaster.

While not every marriage can be saved, and some are doomed regardless, marriage counseling works for many. Teaching the basic principles that are taught in counseling sessions can help save a marriage from destruction and help couples back onto the path of a fulfilling marriage. The willingness of both parties in the marriage to work to restore the relationship is really the ultimate factor that drives success in marriage counseling. We’ll discuss later some of the reasons and factors for success or failure of the relationship.

There is no end to the ways that couples can create conflict in their relationships. And there are many reasons why couples seek marriage counseling. All marriages are beset with difficulties at some point in the relationship. Sadly, many do not survive them, and become numbered in the divorce statistics.

Marriage counseling is most often sought when couples reach a point of frustration, much sadness and severe hurt in the relationship. Yet, these troubles have not arisen from nowhere, and may have been brewing for many years. Yet usually the only time people seek out marriage counseling is when the relationship is already nearly broken down. If couples would seek counseling back when their difficulties begin, before they add the layers of hurt and misunderstanding, the success rate of counseling would be greatly improved.

Everyone wants to strive for happiness, but our often fantasized ideal of happiness is seldom experienced in the real world. A marriage relationship is hard work. It requires each partner to often suspend their ego, not fixate on who is right and who is wrong, but to try to find compromise, to get around the issues that divide them. Accepting the reality of a more achievable happiness requires a sensible and realistic approach, and learning to drop that insistence on being “right” is a good first step, both in a marriage and in entering marriage counseling. Without this, all may be in vain.

As may be seen in this article, working to save a marriage is the central discussion. But, what of the couples that insist on divorce? Sometimes, even couples who have reached this point in their marriage can be helped to retrieve it through counseling. But even if the marriage cannot be saved, using counseling to help couples divorce amicably, even transform into friends, lean how to be willing co-parents to their children, etc., can lessen the pain and help people achieve a more constructive process. During the stages of dissolving the marriage, extreme emotions are likely to be felt.

The physical and emotional separation may aggravate feeling of pain, loss, mourning and distress. Marriage counseling can often be of great help during this period as it can help couples express emotions that have not been fully expressed, and clear the air for a new beginning as divorced people.

Once you begin to see the signs of distress in the marriage is the time to seek marriage counseling. It’s best not to wait until the layers of hurt and anger have created pain that may never be healed. Seeking counseling at the earliest possible time gives the very best chance of saving the relationship and renewing it. Waiting too long too often means waiting until it is too late to save the marriage.